"Long before I had any reason to think he might be interested in me, I had put him down as the sort of man I hoped to marry. Kissing & holding hands would have added nothing to this conviction (anybody can kiss &hold hands). On the contrary, in fact, it would have subtracted something very important. I wanted to marry a man prepared to swim against the tide.I took it for granted that there must be a few men left in the world who had that kind of strength. I assumed that those men would also be looking for women of principle. I did not want to be among the marked-down goods on the bargain table, cheap because they'd been pawed over. Crowds collect there. It is only the few who will pay full price. 'You get what you pay for.' "
my message to you girls & even to my self: seek a man who will fight for you. men are built with a desire to win, to beat a challenge, to conquer something. If he doesn't fight for you initially...you can safely assume that he won't go to battle for commitment to you years down the road. A small blow of discouragement or a minuscule hump in the path would leave a weakling's fists weightless. Yet a real man who is faced with daggers to his pride, maybe a tragedy, maybe even a tempting, lascivious woman..and still chooses integrity, chooses virtue, chooses to learn and not be downtrodden..this is a man who knows how to fight for honor. This is the kind of man we should desire.
On the other flip side of the coin, I have learned in my very limited "knowledge" (I feel foolish even calling it that)..but anyway... strong & tough as they seem, men are so terribly fragile. This might come as a shock to most women..but.. they are even more fragile than us. It's true. So be a woman who loves & encourages & build up the men around you... even if you don't end up together, wouldn't you want to be remembered as someone who made them better? instead of bitter?
Girls, guard your heart. Settle not for "good," but the best.
goodnight,
xoxo: steph
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